You have to Learn the Art of being a Parent

No one is born with an innate sense to know every baby or child's needs. Not knowing first hand does not make you to be a bad parent. However, deliberately being ignorant for not learning the right or wrong way to be a parent is unforgiving. Especially in this age of technology where every piece of knowledge and information is right at your fingertips.

I have been appalled at numerous occasions of what some parents constitutes as ok.

Story 1

The father is trying to stop smoking and is using vapour ciggs at home. Both parents are constantly on their gadgets while the son is left to play on his own. Buying toys at toys r us is considered 'luxurious' so instead they gave him a non working vapour cigg as a toy. What is so wrong with the picture is that his own grandmother thinks that it is good that the grandson learns what the vapour cigg is.

This scene is so wrong and appalling at so many levels. Parents do not spend time with the child. Family values are twisted. Parents are selfish and do not invest anything into their greatest asset, which is their own son. Giving their son a cigg to play with is so horrifying to the extend that if you call child services to report on it they would probably take the child away. Parents are unfit to take care of child'd needs.

Just writing this down makes me so so angry. How ignorant can you be to your own child??? (Screams at parents!!!!!)

Every parent has to educate themselves. You can't just have a child and let them grow on their own. They need love and care and constant attention from you.

What can you do when you become a parent?
1. Buy parenting books. Read and educate yourself. BBW is just around the corner. No reason to not buy good books at value prices.

2. Attend parenting conferences or workshops. Sometimes baby fairs have free workshops for parents to attend. Join in and learn something from it.

3. Join a group. There are many support groups out there. There is also a group for fathers to meet other fathers. I think this takes place at the Shah Alam library every fortnight.

Give yourself a chance to be a good parent. Having a child be dependent on you is a good thing. There is no other feeling like that in the world.