The Blame Game

Each person is responsible for their own path. It is all within our own reach to change the situation to work for you instead of assigning blame. Simple Logic, don't you think.

You cannot change the current situation when you have made a decisive decision. It is not fair to yourself and others around you to complain and blame on the rut that you are in. It is even more ridiculous to blame the rut for your unproductive behaviour. It just doesn't make any sense.

Say you blame it on your rut. You don't progress anywhere at all. You will be complaining and playing the blame game your whole life. Until when will this continue?? You will never ever get out of your rut. You will never change your current situation. You will never instil trust in anyone because you have not proven anything. You did not show any progress, you did not show that you are reliable and capable. You need to change. You need to change your whole outlook on life.

Here are a few guidelines that I follow.

1. Always Look Your Best.
Appearance is so so important anywhere you go. May it be for work, or even for an outing with your friends and family. Being well groomed at work shows that you take yourself seriously. People WILL JUDGE you for how you dress no matter how well you perform at work. You do not have to be stylish. Just simple things like a well ironed shirt/blouse and pants. Wear proper shoes and comb your hair. If you are going out with family, it is very important to dress well for your partner. You reflect the image of your family. Also added bonus if your partner receives compliments on how fit you look.

2. Go Beyond the Expectation
Anticipate the expectation of the norm and go beyond that. People will remember those who went the extra mile. Therefore, be organize, finish work well in advance and always do something extra.

3. See Every Situation (bad/good) as a Challenge and an Opportunity to do Better
Every situation that you come across either bad or good is an opportunity. There has to be an incentive at the end. Even if you don't see it, you have to create it. Only when you have a goal will you pursue to do better.

4. Be Consistent and Make it a Habit
Procrastination is a horrible horrible disease which you have to kill. In order to that you need to create a routine and make it a habit. Above all, be consistent.

5. Have faith in Yourself and Allah
This is something I tell my husband. Don't put your faith on people. Always put faith in yourself and Allah. Only he is able to change someone's heart or mind.

6.Cultivate Good Akhlak
Be nice to people around you. Always be helpful and kind. If you have nothing nice to say, then don't say anything. I believe as we get older, we speak less. We also only speak when necessary. To be kind or to educate someone nicely. Sometimes I really don't like to be around people who just want to say something just to say it and be mean. It is not fruitful at all.

So stop playing the blame game and take action instead. In Syaa Allah, Allah will guide us to the right path.